Confession – One of my favorite shows is Ice road Truckers.


In a recent show there were mouse droppings scattered all over the floor of the Kenworth truck of Ice Road Trucker Rick. He was unwell and had potentially Hanta Virus.


The truck was quarantined and one serious looking cleanup crew went work stripping the truck and cleaning every little corner. Every dark corner.


If Rick had kept his truck clean he wouldn’t have a problem. Now both truck and driver were crippled.

Come, my Light, and illumine my darkness.

Come, my Life, and revive me from death.

Come, my Physician, and heal my wounds.

Come, Flame of divine love, and burn up the thorns of my sins,

kindling my heart with the flame of thy love.

Dimitrii of Rostov


All those little corners where the mice could live and breed.


All unknown to Rick, blithely breathing in illness.


Have you investigated your dark corners?


Probably not. Who wants to dig around in the dark. Who likes cleaning in the internal workings of the soul.


Yet we all have dark corners, things we choose not to want to look at.   Jesus, the surgeon of the Soul says this


  • “Your eye is a lamp that provides light for your body. When your eye is good, your whole body is filled with light. But when it is bad, your body is filled with darkness. Make sure that the light you think you have is not actually darkness. If you are filled with light, with no dark corners, then your whole life will be radiant, as though a floodlight were filling you with light.” Luke 11:34-36

Jesus calls us to a examination. An invitation to holiness.


We don’t hear much about holiness, a call to being virtuous.


Renovaré is an organization that was founded by Richard Foster who defined 6 streams of Christian Spirituality.


  1. 1. Prayer Filled Life
  2. 2. Virtuous Life
  3. 3. Spirit-empowered Life
  4. 4. Compassionate Life
  5. 5. Word-centered Life
  6. 6. Sacramental Life

The Virtuous Life is described in this way


The Holiness Tradition emphasizes the re-formation of our hearts so that we are able to respond appropriately to the challenges of life. The word “holiness” has some negative connotations today, but the original Greek meaning of the word virtue is simply “to function well.”

Virtuous Life is not about rules or judgement, perfectionism, or some kind of merit gained by good deeds. It encourages us to the ultimate goal: not to “get us into heaven, but to get heaven into us.”

It is attentiveness to the source of our actions, to the condition and motives of the heart, and taking on new patterns of life that flow naturally from within.

“We see Jesus consistently doing what needs to be done when it needs to be done. We see in him such deeply ingrained “holy habits” that he is always “response-able,” always able to respond appropriately. This is purity of heart. This is the virtuous life.”  Richard J. Foster, Streams of Living Water


I wonder what is hiding in the truck cab of your life. Filth that the Holy Spirit wants to purify and clean out of you for both your sake and the sake of your relationships.


Where do we start?

  1. 1. Understand this is not a journey of condemnation
  2. This is a journey of hope and change. This is a journey where the Good Shepherd takes care of his sheep with gentleness and not condemnation. So often we may have been fed messages of try harder and you’re not good enough.
  4. “Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.” Matthew 11:28-30
  6. 2. Embrace that this is a lifetime journey. True deep change doesn’t happen over night. Sanctification happens slowly and is deliberately led by the Holy Spirit. Yes the patient Holy Spirit is at work in you to change you. Gently coaxing and inviting, alluring you to purity.
  8. 3. Find someone safe you can journey with. This maybe the most difficult part of the journey. Someone who will not condemn or offer quick advice. Someone who will instead invite you to life of prayer. Perhaps a Spiritual Director, a Pastor or a friend. Ask the Holy Spirit to lead you.



Some quotes to consider


Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. -Martin L King Jr


The men and women who are truly filled with light are those who have gazed deeply into the darkness of their own imperfect existence. Brennan Manning


So long as we imagine that it is we who have to look for God, we must often lose heart. But it is the other way about; He is looking for us. And so we can afford to recognize that very often we are not looking for God; far from it, we are in full flight from him, in high rebellion against him. And He knows that and has taken it into account. He has followed us into our own darkness; there where we thought finally to escape him, we run straight into his arms. So we do not have to erect a false piety for ourselves, to give us the hope of salvation. Our hope is in his determination to save us, and he will not give in. Simon Tugwell



Questions to consider and leave a comment

  1. 1. What feelings rise up when you consider looking into the ‘Dark Corners’ of your life?
  2. 2. What is like to know that God ‘is looking for us’?
  3. 3. What are the qualities of a ‘safe’ person for you?

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Pregnant silence, so full of expectancy,
Empty of sound
Full of You,
Waiting to be received.

Glistening dew, delicately transparent,
Quivering gentleness,
Your Grace,
Waiting to be absorbed.

Exquisite fragrance, suspended presence,
Your Beauty,
Waiting to be breathed.

Caressing sun, warming depth,
Displacing cold,
Your Love,
Waiting to restore.

Vibrant stillness, restoring fragmentation,
Bringing poise,
Waiting to love


by Margaret Dunn

Margaret Dunn lives at Oasis Retreat Centre, Albany, and enjoys this lovely patch of
bush, and is passionate about designing and making quilts now that she has retired.

Source: Refresh Journal of Contemplative Spirituality Winter 2013
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I don't like Mondays but kinda do


I don’t like Mondays. Its rubbish day.

It can be a beautiful, sunny, and a ‘full of pleasantry’ kind of day but its still ‘Rubbish Day’.

Sure enough every Monday a large truck will come along our road, stop outside our home and collect the bright orange bags full of rubbish.

Earlier I will have weaved my way through the house emptying small rubbish bins into the orange bags. I would have gone into the garage to discover that our cat has scratched a hole in the side of a bag to get at those smelly chicken bones. Hmm.

Its not the greatest way to start the week but its one of those tasks I have to do.

If I don’t, well just imagine the mess that would pile up, the smell, the flies, and the potential for disease.

Forgiveness is a choice. You choose not to be held hostage in the present to the injustices that occurred in the past. Shirley Glass

I have been in homes where you have to wade through the piles of accumulation. I have also been in homes where there is not even a speck of dust anywhere, the owner is OTT (over the top) on perfectionism and you worry about leaving fingerprints.

Whats this post about? Where am I going?

I’m talking about forgiveness.


A few years back, in a sermon series, I used the metaphor of rubbish bags that we carry around with us. Bags of resentment, anger and chicken wings that we need to get rid of and let go. Bags full of relational pain about ourselves, others and maybe even towards God.

Holding on to that rubbish, it slowly becomes precious (enter Gollum) ) to us, unknowingly changing our personality and robbing us of life.

Hoarding resentments just so we might be able to draw upon them in the future if needed.

Mondays remind me of the need to let things go, to forgive and not hold on to resentment.

But how do we forgive?


Perhaps using a metaphor story such as the cleaning of the house, the taking out of the rubbish could be a start, a trigger to your mind to think about the ‘How’ of forgiveness.

More to come.

Leave some comments below. I would love to hear from you as to how the use of this metaphor might have helped you.

Questions to consider and leave a comment.

  1. What happens in you when you think about forgiveness?
  2. Now does unforgiveness alter your personality?
  3. Which rubbish bag is the fullest for you? Anger against yourself, others, God?

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They stood beside me.
Shoulder to shoulder and when my little shield of faith started to droop under the tiredness of the battle, they came in closer, knowing one day, perhaps the next, I would rise again.


Friends are crucial in this life.


If you have a mental illness then you are in a battle that you cannot face alone.  


Who has stood by your side and believed in you?


I am currently reading Simon Sinek’s latest book Leaders Eat Last.


He writes about the importance of having a Circle of Safety derived from a Fable of Aesop.


A lion used to prowl about a field in which Four Oxen used to dwell. Many a time he tried to attack them; but whenever he came near they turned their tails to one another, so that whichever way he approached them he was met by the horns of one of them. At last, however, they fell a-quarrelling among themselves, and each went off to pasture alone in a separate corner of the field. Then the Lion attacked them one by one and soon made an end of all four. —Aesop, sixth century B.C


Often I have seen people being picked off my the struggles of this life simply because they haven’t had a Circle of safety. A group of others who are looking out for them. More than just friends, but warriors in arms. Ready to make a stand and come to your aid and you doing likewise.


Sinek goes on to write about the Spartans.


The Spartans, a warrior society in ancient Greece, were feared and revered for their strength, courage and endurance. The power of the Spartan army did not come from the sharpness of their spears, however; it came from the strength of their shields. Losing one’s shield in battle was considered the single greatest crime a Spartan could commit. “Spartans excuse without penalty the warrior who loses his helmet or breastplate in battle,” writes Steven Pressfield in his account of the Battle of Thermopylae (the battle upon which the movie 300 is based), “but punish the loss of all citizenship rights the man who discards his shield.” And the reason was simple. “A warrior carries helmet and breastplate for his own protection, but his shield for the safety of the whole line.


Paul writes to the Christians in the Roman stronghold of Ephesus to ‘take up the shield of faith’ Ephesians 6:13-17. This passage is often seen as an individuals call to spiritual disciplines, but I think Paul was writing not just to individuals but to the corporate grouping, a small group of Christians meeting in a local home.


They were a ‘Circle of Safety’ for each other. When ones ‘Shield of faith’ drooped and became heavy the others would come around and shield them.


This is what Church is all about. Its not a building, nor is it a time of the week. Its a relationship we offer to each other, a line of safety.


Jesus said this
For where two or three are gathered in my name, I am there among them. Matthew 18:20


Where a Circle of Safety is created, Christ will be right in the middle of it.

Does this fill you with hope?


A few years ago I was supporting someone going through a tough phase in their life. I could see that things would change for them if they just persisted a bit longer. The challenge was hard and painful for them and also for those that loved them. Their faith shield was drooping and so I offered for them to borrow some faith from me.
They borrowed some faith and made it through.


Faith which they couldn’t muster up in themselves they borrowed from others.


They trusted me and my belief that things would change, and so took some of what I offered and kept on going.


What does this take?
  1. Time. Relationships of this quality take time to build. Relationships like this don’t just happen overnight but are built day by day, week by week, month by month.
  2. A time. A commitment to meet on a regular basis and checkout how each others shields are looking. It might be for lunch, breakfast or over a cup of coffee, but there is a regular time where we stand shoulder to shoulder and talk about the lions we face.
  3. Trials. In a fight, who would you like standing next to you? A couple of new recruits or a couple of seasoned warriors. Being tested and tried builds muscle. Faith grows through experience, trial by trial.


Questions to Consider and leave a comment
  1. Who is in your ‘Circle of Safety’?
  2. Why is it that we have a tendency to want to face our trials alone?
  3. Have you ever ‘borrowed faith’ from someone else? What was it like?
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A Prayer

an old hymn tells me that you are
lover of my soul.
I wriggle under the implication of
that word.
For if you are lover of my soul
you long for a response
to show you
that I have seen you for who you truly are
- gentlest Love
- warming my heart
- stirring my desire
for more of you …
and more of you …
and more of you …
until I am lost in the mystery
of being with you
in you, of you,
Help me to risk drawing closer to you today.

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from ‘On Holiday with God’ Sue Pickering 2012 Canterbury Press, Norwich

Refresh – Journal of Contemplative SpiritualityVolume 12, Number 1. Summer 2013. I

Sue Pickering wonders often about retreating to a bach at Kinloch and being a granny,
but in the meantime is engaged in a stimulating mix of aged care chaplaincy; writing;
SGM Workgroup; spiritual direction, retreats and supervision; Cathedral governance;
learning the piano and occasional quilting. Helping others recognise the sacred Presence
in the midst of life is a continuing passion.


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Disclaimer: I have never juggled snowballs.

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Sometimes I get a picture or a story, I believe from God, that needs to be prayerfully thought about.

 I had one of those the other day.

 I was juggling snowballs, and actually I was doing a pretty good job of it too, if I can modestly say for a non juggling Aucklander where it never snows.

For me I want to surrender to the ambiance of God’s love flowing around my juggling snowballs.

  Snowballs were flying high up into the air and I was enjoying the rhythm. I was having a party.

 I, like you most likely, have a busy life. Snowballs symbolising all the various roles I have. Husband, Father, Pastor, Gardener, Trugmaker, Blogger etc.

Keeping all those balls flying requires a certain rhythm, almost a musicality to the movement. Round and round, up and down, flying high up into the air.

There is however a relationship going on here that enables me to juggle. Its unseen, unrecognised and possibly taken for granted.

 The relationship between the snowball and the temperature of the air.

Ambient – relating to the immediate surroundings of something.
Ambiance – the atmosphere of a place


For those snowballs to hold their shape, there must be an cold ambient temperature to keep them frozen. A few degrees of warming will cause the solid to turn to mush. Juggling will become more of a slushy mess than entertaining experience.


That which is unseen and out of our control does have an effect on us.


Scary thought isn’t it. Something beyond your control, manipulation and power, having an influence over you.

The snowball juggler surrenders to the ambient temperatures ability to hold it all together. The juggler can play, do tricks, have fun all because the atmosphere is perfect.

Just try this little exercise for a moment.

Imagine God thinking about you.

What do you assume God feels when you come to mind?

When I ask people to do this, a surprising number of people say that the first thing they assume God feels is disappointment. Others assume that God feels anger. In both cases, these people are convinced that it is their sin that catches God’s attention. I think they are wrong-and i think the consequences of such a view of God are enormous. David Benner

 Honestly, deep down, at a raw emotional level what is the ambient temperature of God for you. Are you trying to appease an assumed angry God? If you are then you will never juggle with joy and spontaneity.

 For me I want to surrender to the ambiance of God’s love flowing around my juggling snowballs.

Gravity may hold planets in orbit and nuclear force may hold the atom together, but only love has the power to transform persons.

Only love can soften a hard heart.

Only love can renew trust after it has been shattered.

Only love can inspire acts of genuine self-sacrifice.

Only love can free us from the tyrannizing effects of fear.

David Benner


What will it take for you to surrender more of yourself to that love?

Those who specialize in firm exhortation, think less of enjoying God as “Abba” and more of obeying him as a sergeant. Larry Crabb

 Questions to consider and leave a comment.

  1. What is the ambient atmosphere surrounding your life? Fear? Love?

  2. What do you assume God feels when you come to mind?

  3. How do your assumptions about God affect you?

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The whistles, the dancing and singing told me something very celebratory was happening.
Joy Is The Serious Business Of Heaven And ... Cricket


My sister and I went to the One day International Cricket game between India and New Zealand. It was in Hamilton and even though I have never been to India I am sure it was like stepping into a slice of Indian culture.
This was a section of New Zealand society that had come out to support their visiting heroes. So just to our left were a large group of Indian supporters.
Drums, whistles, and voices. Singing, dancing, raising their hands. Large flags were waved, and shouts of encouragement were thrown out into the field.
This was something to watch and experience. Wafts of curry filled the air.
We were spectators of a rejoicing celebration. Spectators, and participants of something bigger going on.

What gets stirred up in you when you see something like this?

 Is there a desire to be involved, to get into the middle of the dance?
We New Zealanders, with good British staid upbringing, don’t easily get involved with such celebratory enthusiasm. We may clap our hands, say a few words, all very quiet and restrained. Not wanting to have attention drawn to ourselves, not wanting to seemingly lose control of dignity.
Paul writes this
Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, Rejoice. Philippians 4:4 (NRSV)
Celebrate God all day, every day. I mean, revel in him! Philippians 4:4 (The Message)
To be honest when I read this scripture there is a tension that rises up within me.
I have no problem with rejoicing and being full of praise and worship to the Lord.
The fear I have is that I have seen many people get so involved and entranced by the endorphin release of joyful celebration that they lose a connectedness to facing the reality of living in the here and now.
C.S. Lewis describes our present reality in this way
this ‘valley of tears,’ cursed with labour, hemmed round with necessities, tripped up with frustrations, doomed to perpetual plannings, puzzlings, and anxieties   C.S. Lewis

For some there is a disconnect.

 They choose to not look at the struggles, to not take responsibility for their life and to live in a dream world of Church entertainment.

 They have a fairy tale picture of God with a magic wand. They pray, worship and do all the ‘right Christian things’ hoping God will magically sprinkle fairy dust over their relationships or bank balance or …

 This is not a biblical picture of reality.

 In the book of Habakkuk we read the experience of living with one foot in the reality of the ‘valley of tears’ and the other foot in the hope of God.
Though the fig tree does not bud
   and there are no grapes on the vines,
though the olive crop fails
   and the fields produce no food,
though there are no sheep in the pen
   and no cattle in the stalls,
yet I will rejoice in the Lord,
   I will be joyful in God my Savior.
The Sovereign Lord is my strength;
   he makes my feet like the feet of a deer,
   he enables me to tread on the heights.
Habakkuk 3: 17-19

I’ve developed my own version of this passage

 Though the fig tree does not bud
What I expected to happen that would insure a secure future is just not there
   and there are no grapes on the vines,
and for all my efforts of managing life nothing has come to bear fruit
though the olive crop fails
that what I relied on and put my hope in to soothe my open wounds has failed
   and the fields produce no food,
that I am looking at starvation and emptiness square in the face
though there are no sheep in the pen
that I have lost all tangible resources I could trade off
and no cattle in the stalls,
that all my wealth, status, security is gone
yet I will rejoice in the Lord,
Yet even in this I will make a conscious choice to oppose my feelings and to rejoice. I’m not putting a ‘happy face’ mask on and pretending problems don’t exist, I am choosing to go deeper and trust.
I will be joyful in God my Savior.
I know that God is my Saviour. That what I am experiencing now does not alter in any way God’s eternal love and commitment to me. Nothing can separate me from God’s love (Romans )
The Sovereign Lord is my strength;
I find my strength not in self sufficiency, demanding things go my way, but in the  sufficiency of God to lead me through the problems, the ‘valley of tears’
he makes my feet like the feet of a deer,
Look what he is doing in me! I am finding a new ability to stand, to be nimble, to jump.
he enables me to tread on the heights.
I have not been disabled by the ‘valley of tears’, rather God has enabled me. I have a steadiness within me, a confidence, a hope to see a far off land where I will be with them (Father, Son, Spirit) forever. Valleys to walk through yes, but a steady hand beside.

How do you develop the type of joy described by Habakkuk.

  1. Realise it is a by product of a life lived fully for God. It is a Fruit of the Holy Spirit so be open to the work of the Holy Spirit in your life. Comes out of a life where the Holy Spirit is active.
But what happens when we live God’s way? He brings gifts into our lives, much the same way that fruit appears in an orchard—things like affection for others [Love], exuberance about life[Joy], serenity [Peace]. Legalism is helpless in bringing this about; it only gets in the way. Galatians 5:22, 24
  1. Sit and listen to the stories of those who have been through the ‘valley of tears’ and yet have a beautiful sense of deep Joy. Learn from them. I love to sit with old saints.
People who have been through the rough and tumble of life and yet have a depth of quiet joy to them. I listen to them, glean some truths, ask questions and just enjoy sitting in the quiet of a life well lived.

Joy is the serious business of Heaven C.S. Lewis


Questions to consider and leave a comment

  1. What happens in you when you see someone responding in exuberant Joy?
  2. Who do you know that has a deep unshakable sense of joy?
  3. If ‘Joy is the serious business of Heaven’ what is our role in bringing this to here and now everyday life?
I recently spoke on this topic. You might to listen to it here.
Barry Pearman
p.s. New Zealand won the Cricket match and the series!
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A prayer of one who feels lost

Dear God,
why do I keep fighting you off?
One part of me wants you desperately,
another part of me unknowingly
pushes you back and runs away.
What is there in me that
so contradicts my desire for you?
These transition days, these passageways,
are calling me to let go of old securities,
to give myself over into your hands.

Like Jesus who struggled with the pain
I, too, fight the “let it all be done.”
Loneliness, lostness, non-belonging,
all these hurts strike out at me,
leaving me pained with this present goodbye.
I want to be more, but I fight the growing.
I want to be new, but I hang onto the old.
I want to live, but I won’t face the dying.
I want to be whole, but I cannot bear
to gather up the pieces into one.

Is it that I refuse to be out of control,
to let the tears take their humbling journey,
to allow my spirit to feel its depression,
to stay with the insecurity of “no home”?

Now is the time. You call to me,
begging me to let you have my life,
inviting me to taste the darkness
so I can be filled with the light,
allowing me to lose my direction
so that I will find my way home to you.


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If we want to see our goals achieved we have to negotiate the plan with those that will influence the outcome.

Do you negotiate your plans?

Over the last four posts I have been going through some lessons Daniel, a character from the Bible, has taught me about achieving goals. This is the final post in this series.
In Daniel’s story we find him making a goal of not eating the Kings food. It wasn’t so much the food that was the problem it was the significance of eating this food. It would have meant that Daniel was saying to the whole world that he was aligning himself with the pagan worship of idols of which the food had been offered to.
So Daniel made a plan to achieve his goal.
A goal without a plan is just a wish.― Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
Daniel couldn’t rely on just wishing that his goal would be achieved. He didn’t sit back and hope and pray that his goals would be achieved. Instead he formed a plan.
I call it his S.TA.N. plan
Simple to understand by all
Timed for a Review
Aimed at a Deep Value
Negotiated with Key Others.

5. Lesson Number Five. Your plan needs to be Negotiated with Key Others.

Daniel negotiated the plan with the palace master. If Daniel was going to be successful with this plan and achieve his goal he was going to have to get permission and support from those he was in relationship with.

Here is the tricky part. We like to be in control of our lives, we don’t like to have to depend on others views and influences of what we are planning. We have a natural bent towards independence, rather than interdependence, but if we look further at this passage we see that God was at work in the relationship Daniel had with the Palace Master.

Now God allowed Daniel to receive favor and compassion from the palace master. Daniel 1:9

If we dig a little deeper into the Hebrew of this passage we discover something of the quality of this relationship. The two words used to describe how the palace master viewed Daniel were kindness and tender love.

kindness – especially as extended to the lowly, needy and miserable
tender love – a compassion, brotherly feeling, of those born from same womb

God was at work in forming the relationship between Daniel and the Palace Master.

Because this relationship had already been fostered and developed into something akin to brotherhood, the Palace Master felt secure and was easily able to trust Daniels motives.

So God was at work in the relationships that held the power of success or failure.

How do we negotiate our plan with others

  1. Pray. Daniels plan was embraced because God was already at work in the relationship. Daniel was a man of prayer, calling on God to help him in everything.
  2. Face your fears and go for it.  
  3. List out all those that will be involved in the plan.
  4. Go to the key influencers and discuss your plan. Remember it has to be simple to understand, timed for review, and aimed at something of deep value to you.
  5. Ask them for feedback. What they like, don’t like, ideas to help the plan succeed.
  6. Rewrite the plan, if needed, incorporating their feedback

If we want to see our goals achieved we have to negotiate the plan with those that will influence the outcome.

Some quotes to consider

Sometimes you just need a ‘big’ person to give you permission to fail, or to quit. We all need a kindly mentor to remind us that not all of our expectations are realistic.” David Riddell

During a negotiation, it would be wise not to take anything personally. If you leave personalities out of it, you will be able to see opportunities more objectively.Brian Koslow

It is better having one person working with you, than three working for you. Unknown

No one can whistle a symphony. It takes an orchestra to play it. -Halford E Luccock

We will surely get to our destination if we join hands. – Aung San Suu Kyi

The momentum in a group can help you progress in a way you can never achieve on your own. To achieve your goal, first link-up with those who are like-minded. David Riddell

Do not be someone who does not hear others or God because you only want to make your own point and pursue your own personal goals. Larry Crabb

Questions to consider and leave a comment
  • Why do we have a natural bent towards independence rather than interdependence?
  • Who are the key influencers to the success of your plans?
  • What can be gained by involving others?
  • What can be potentially at threat if you involve others?

For the previous posts on this topic check out these links

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