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Is Taking A Spiritual Bypass Harming Your Mental Health?

It always happened.

After a relapse he would always say ‘I’ll never do that again, I’m trusting in Jesus to help me’.

Charged up by some sort of white knuckled determination and singing a few Jesus songs off he would go. Sure enough though his grit would grind out and he would crash back into the old behaviours.

You see he delighted in the feelings that flowed when in that place of escape.

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52 Days to Better Mental Health

The change was barely noticeable unless you knew them well enough to know that this was significant. It was a small change in their behaviour, a problem that had plagued them for most of their life, but now it was gone.

They wanted a miracle, like the over night delivery of a new brain, but this was actually kind of better. Small yes, significant YES.

It was always sad for me when people would come to me and project their anger on to me about God not healing them in miraculous fashion of their addiction, personality disorder, anxiety, depression etc.. Continue reading

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When Do You Feel Most ‘Fully Alive’?

When do you feel most fully alive?

That moment where you feel right on target, in the zone, on the peak of the wave. That time and place, even for the briefest of moments, where you know fully without any doubt that this is what you were meant for.

I want to be someone who is fully alive.

Wholeheartedly alive. Someone that others would say ‘He really knew how to dance a jig with Father, Son and Spirit’ Continue reading

Putting First Things First

Putting First Things First

‘If it wasn’t for sin I would be out of a job’.

This was a little quip I came up with when I was a pastor. The life of sinfulness and helping people through the mess kept me employed, gave me a living.

It does for many of us, especially those in the helping professions.

The other side of the coin was those who needed serious long term professional help yet could not access it due to its cost. I am thinking of those who needed counselling, psychotherapy etc but the fees were beyond the depth of their unemployed pockets. Continue reading

Shoulder to Shoulder The Fight is Real

Shoulder to Shoulder The Fight is Real

I didn’t realise life would be such a fight.

I thought life was meant to be like a gentle stroll along a flower strewn pathway, chatting with best friends. Well that’s what I was designed for wasn’t I?

In reality though I am in a fight, and you are too.

We are unfinished creatures– longing, reaching, stretching towards fulfillment. We express these desires for completion in prayer. Eugene Peterson

When I started this journey of inching my way through the book of Nehemiah I believed that I would find some great nuggets of truth to help rebuild myself, and others. Those ‘5 simple tips to a better life’ that would sell like cold lemonade on blistering hot day.

Haven’t found them and I don’t believe I will. Continue reading

What to Do When Fatigue Hits Your Heart

What to Do When Fatigue Hits Your Heart

Fatigue seems to sap out any reserve you might have to go on.

I remember visiting him in the Intensive Care Unit in our local hospital. After a huge overdose of pills he had woken up to discover he was still alive. His attempt at suicide had not succeeded.

His story was not unfamiliar. He had battled his addiction for years. Day after day. Then it got the better of him, and when his whole world crashed around him he decided to crash out of it.

Beneath what our culture calls psychological disorder is a soul crying for what only community can provide. Larry Crabb

This was years ago, but just the other day he shared with me his excitement at the news of becoming a grandfather.

Wonderful I thought, it was worth all the struggle of rebuild for the joy set before him of holding a new born baby in his arms.

Fatigue hits me too. Continue reading

How To Handle Power Dynamics That Threaten

Discover How To Handle Power Dynamics That Threaten

A friend recently asked ‘Do you know what the ‘Golden Rule’ is’?  He then went on to say that ‘He who has the gold makes the rules’. 

This is an example of  a power dynamic.

Power dynamics refers to the way power works in a setting. Whether that be within a marriage, family, church, workplace or really any place where humans relate.

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Do You Have A mind to work

Do You Have A ‘Mind To Work’?

One of the most wonderful things you will ever witness is when someone does the hard work of change.

It maybe the challenge of overcoming the grip of an addiction. It might be the rebuilding of a life after a serious traumatic experience.

I think of those I know who have very serious mental illnesses, yet push on, do the work, and make progress in their lives that is significant for them. Continue reading

I Say 'Resurrection' to The Mocker

I Say ‘Resurrection’ to The Mocker

I don’t think I could ever be a politician.

I look at what politicians have to put up with and know I couldn’t handle it. Adulation one day, then a knife in the back the next.

All those negative voices. People wanting to tear you down, and being ready to do anything to achieve your destruction. It’s a dog eat dog world where the dogs are always on the scrounge for that tasty morsel they can trot out and display. Continue reading