Category Archives: Helping Others

Do You Have A Self-Care Plan For The Ditch Mental health

Do You Have A Self-Care Plan For The Ditch?

When you’re helping others you need a self-care plan for yourself

It was a major storm. A lot of rain had fallen and I had witnessed flooding like I had never seen before. A few days later I was in a drain clearing some of the damage.

I was up and over my knees in silty mud. It wasn’t nice or comfortable as I waded in the mud for probably half an hour. The only thing that really kept me going was the thought of a hot shower and some clean clothes.  That mud sure was sticky. Continue reading

Do You Have a 'Time sensitive' Gut? compassion mental health

Do You Have a ‘Time sensitive’ Gut?

Compassion moved my gut, then my heart, and then I received a notification from my mind.

Not every story creates gut moving compassion.

But as I listened it wrenched open my heart, soul and stomach till I was totally gutted and laid bare by what had happened to my friend. Being vulnerable to others can do this in you.

They open a door to what is really going on in their soul. They feel safe enough to share and then they vomit out tightly held stories of pain.

Compassion, the suffering together with someone, asks you to get in the ditch with the struggle. Messy as it is.

There is always that moment of decision. Will I listen deeply and groan, or be antiseptically clean and Teflon it away. Continue reading

Why did the Samaritan cross the road

Why Did The Samaritan Cross The Road?

We feel safe enough to heal when we experience a shared humanity.

I only went to see this doctor once. His personality, or lack of it, made me wonder whether under his smooth shaven skin was actually an android. No sense of empathy or human compassion for my sprained ankle could be seen.

He treated me, charged me, and then sent me on my way.

I’ve met others like this too (Yikes, I wonder if they are breeding) and sadly all too often in the helping professionals.

They are all professional and programmed up to the latest model of ‘care’.

The ones that I have found to be truly helpful are those Continue reading

'I'm Such A Failure'

‘I’m Such A Failure’ and Here is What I Want You to Know

‘I’m such a  failure’

If you’ve never quietly said it about yourself, then you will most likely have heard it from someone else.

This post is to help you help others you have problems with a failure mindset.

For myself, I can so easily personalise my failures into ‘I’m a failure’. Continue reading