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Waiting God

Waiting God

Pregnant silence, so full of expectancy,
Empty of sound
Full of You,
Waiting,
Waiting,
Waiting to be received.
Glistening dew, delicately transparent,
Quivering gentleness,
Your Grace,
Waiting,
Waiting,
Waiting to be absorbed.
Exquisite fragrance, suspended presence,
Unseen,
Your Beauty,
Waiting,
Waiting,
Waiting to be breathed.
Caressing sun, warming depth,
Displacing cold,
Your Love,
Waiting,
Waiting,
Waiting to restore.
Vibrant stillness, restoring fragmentation,
Bringing poise,
God,
Waiting,
Waiting,
Waiting to love

 

by Margaret Dunn

Margaret Dunn lives at Oasis Retreat Centre, Albany, and enjoys this lovely patch of
bush, and is passionate about designing and making quilts now that she has retired.

Source: Refresh Journal of Contemplative Spirituality Winter 2013
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Turning the Page moves to WordPress

Noticed some changes?

 

Over the last few months I have been working at bringing my blog over to WordPress. I have been with the Blogger platform for about three years but as the blog has grown and I have wanted to develop it further I have taken the plunge to shift on to a WordPress platform.

Lots more to do.

Lots more to learn about WordPress.

Have a look around and leave a comment.

Barry

What Turns Your Stomach Maybe A Prompt To Turn Your Heart.

Revulsion.
I looked at the pictures and I was revolted. I am not going share the image with you or even describe it. I do want to ask you though if there is anything that just triggers a feeling of revulsion.

I have heard some horrible stories, some of which I will carry for the rest of my life, and I only carry them lightly because I have Christ taking the fullness of the load with me. They don’t weigh me down, but at the time they were wounds to the soul, now they are healed scars of being present to revulsion.

I feel God calling me to write about the Dehumanised Man. Back in 2009 I wrote an essay for my final undergraduate paper at Carey Baptist College. It was titled Dehumanisation and Sexual Abuse – An essay on how sexual abuse dehumanises the human soul and a Christian response to this. Grab a copy if you like. 

I used the Jesus story of the Dehumanised Man (The Good Samaritan) to look through the eyes of the man abused and left naked in the ditch.

 What would he have felt, heard, sensed etc

 Jesus used this story to describe what love truly is like. To embrace that which others may find revolting.

 It was a horrible essay to write. Who wants to read stories of sexual abuse and being used as an object of gratification?

 There is a call in this story for me, and for you.

 The alluring whisper from the Holy Spirit is to invite a turning of the heart to the person of revulsion. Christ speaks ‘Do you see that I see’.

 I don’t believe its a call to become overwhelmed and traumatised by the horror of the event. It is an invite to ask God’s grace to help you understand the soul at an empathetic level. That the other person experiences agape love. That they know what it like to be known, explored, discovered, touched.

10 Ideas to help you safely embrace the ‘revolted’ one.

 

  1. Pray and ask for the eyes of Christ. How would Christ see this person? Imagine yourself as Christ looking at this situation. What thoughts and feelings would Christ have?
  2. Pray and ask for a compelling vision. What would this person and this situation be like if it was fully alive with released presence of God. A compelling vision looks beyond the present to a time and place where Holy Spirit transformation has crafted something new and fresh.
  3. Look beyond the immediate to where the soul is. What is in front of you can be truly overwhelming, but catch yourself and ask yourself and God what is happening in this person’s soul. Under the waterline of presenting issues what is truly happening.
  4. Pray and ask for Agape love. Unconditional sacrificial love that goes beyond the what we know or can manufacture of ourselves. Ask God for this gift of love.
  5. Talk with others. Debrief about what you’re experiencing with safe others. It maybe a  counsellor, spiritual director, pastor or someone else that won’t just give bandaid quick fix solutions. You also need someone that can safely know, explore, discover, and touch you.
  6. Sip don’t Slurp. Some stories and experiences you can only sip at, taking little samples. If you slurp, or take too much in at one time it be overwhelming. Its ok to say ‘I have heard enough for the moment and I am interested in the rest of your story so we will continue this next week’.
  7. Know your limits. We all have limits to what we can safely handle and thats ok. God has equipped some people with skills and wisdom to be able to take the conversation further than you can take it. So please feel free to tell yourself and the other ‘This … is what I can do and this … is what I can’t do’.
  8. Remember its Millimetre Ministry. Rome wasn’t built in a day and seeing change in  people, especially traumatised people, takes many millimetre steps. Being consistent in the journey is more valuable than praying for a miraculous brain transplant.
  9. Self care. It is ok to look after yourself and please do so! How can we truly give out love from a empty bucket. Do you love yourself enough to rest, say ‘No’, take up hobbies, exercise. Modelling self care to others trains them to self care for themselves.
  10. Explore what it is you’re feeling revolted by. Why are you reacting in this way? Perhaps the feeling of revulsion has been triggered of from past experiences. Like an echo in a cave it all comes flashing back in full and glorious colour. Step back, take a breath and seek help for that unbearable feeling. Remember Christ is with you and he was when that event happened those years ago. Invite him into that space to be your comfort, strength and truth.

 

Questions to consider and leave a comment.
  • What triggers revulsion feelings for you? Why?
  • What would it be like to get down into the ditch of the naked dehumanised man and bathe his wounds?
  • Who are the ones that society in general is revolted by?

 

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6 Ways In Which Spoken Covenants Can Help Your Mental Health

It moved me.  

The other night I watched the movie ‘Lincoln’ and even though I am not an American and I don’t have a great understanding of American history, there was one particular scene right at the start that spoke volumes to me. 

Abraham Lincoln was with his Union Army when two African American soldiers came up to him. One of them quoted back to him the Declaration of Independence and that all men are created equal.


What struck me was that these men knew the declaration off by heart and being African Americans they were going off to fight for the very tenets of the speech. For them these were not just mere words, they were pledges and dreams entwined together.

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Anthems, creeds, covenants, declarations all remind us of foundation values and truths that we hold dearly to. Often the words have been hammered out through struggle and debate, war and peace and reinforced over years of repetition.


Repeatedly spoken covenants bring our fragile forgetful minds back to already ground out and agreed upon truth.


God tells the people of Israel to write, talk, tie and inscribe his commandments into their lives.


Love God, your God, with your whole heart: love him with all that’s in you, love him with all you’ve got!
Write these commandments that I’ve given you today on your hearts. Get them inside of you and then get them inside your children. Talk about them wherever you are, sitting at home or walking in the street; talk about them from the time you get up in the morning to when you fall into bed at night. Tie them on your hands and foreheads as a reminder; inscribe them on the doorposts of your homes and on your city gates. Deuteronomy 6:5-9 (The Message)


Many years ago I was part of a Renovare Spiritual Formation group. I have been through many different forms of home groups and bible study groups but this was radically different. In particular it started with the whole group reading a group covenant.


I.  Opening Words
Welcome to the RENOVARÉ (or other chosen name for the group) Spiritual Formation Group. May God’s Holy Spirit bless us, and may we find fellowship and encouragement during this time together.
Remember, we gather together with one purpose in mind – to become better disciples of Jesus Christ. We do this by encouraging one another to keep his commands, which, as he said, is how we love him (John. 14: 23-24), Through the grace of mutual accountability, our aim is to inspire one another to love and good works.
Please keep in mind that everything that is said here is to be held in confidence. Only then can we feel free enough to share openly and honestly. All hopes and dreams, all fears and failures – even our joys and successes, are to be kept within these walls. This is how we help each other.
II. The Covenant
In utter dependence upon Jesus Christ as my everliving Saviour, Teacher, Lord, and Friend, I will seek continual renewal through:
·         spiritual exercises,
·         spiritual gifts, and
·         acts of service.
III. The Common Disciplines
1        By God’s grace, I will set aside time regularly for prayer, meditation, and spiritual reading, and will seek to practice the presence of God.
2        By God’s grace, I will strive mightily against sin, and will do deeds of love and mercy.
3        By God’s grace, I will welcome the Holy Spirit, exercising gifts and nurturing the fruit while living in the joy and power of the Spirit.
4        By God’s grace, I will endeavour to serve others everywhere I can and will work for justice in all human relationships and social structures.
5        By God’s grace, I will share my faith with others as God leads and will study the Scriptures regularly.
6        By God’s grace, I will joyfully seek to show forth the presence of God in all that I am, in all that I do, in all that I say.


What I liked about having a formal covenantal introduction was that it brought everyone in the group to the same place, to a common understanding of purpose. Expectations were set and agreed upon. Safety was declared as paramount for this group to being a safe place to share … all hopes and dreams, all fears and failures – even our joys and successes are to be kept within these walls. This is how we help each other.
In the church where I serve as Pastor, my Elders and I have been reading Pursuing God’s Will Together by Ruth Haley Barton.


Here are some quotes from Chapter 8 A Covenant That Protects Community


We cannot assume that Christian people agree on what it means to act Christianly, let alone that they are psychologically and spiritually healthy enough to carry out the agreed-on behaviors.


At a recent conference, Jeff Greenway, former president of Asbury Seminary, explained the meaning of covenant in a way that is particularly illuminating. He pointed out that the Hebrew word translated “covenant” comes from the word fetter, which means to bind, shackle or chain. While this may seem a little harsh to our contemporary Western minds, the application Jeff made was very helpful. He said, “We bind ourselves to each other in times of strength so that in moments of weakness we do not become unbound.”


A covenant is an agreement two or more people make with each other about how they will behave in their relationship.


We put covenants in place when what is at stake is so important that we dare not leave the relationship up to chance, subject to passing whims or confused by misunderstanding.


It is important that we make our covenant very humbly and with a great deal of realism about our chances for actually being true to it. Some groups create very impressive documents by throwing just about every idealistic possibility they can think of on a piece of paper and calling it a covenant. I have seen the heartbreak and disillusionment that result when those very same leaders fail to abide by that covenant.


6 Benefits from Having Covenants


  1. Clarify safety expectations. In the Spiritual Formation Group having the covenant reminded everyone that this was a place of confidentiality. If something was shared in the group then that was where it was going to stay. There wasn’t going to be any gossiping tolerated.
  2. Keep us from drifting. Spoken covenants remind us about what the purpose of the group and the time is. My Spiritual Formation Group was about becoming better disciples of Jesus Christ. It wasn’t about politics, or discussing the latest sports results. The purpose was clear. In coming to the group I wasn’t going to be surprised by something other than what had already been agreed upon.
  3. Connect us to words. Words have power and having well crafted words and phrases can bring a sense of safety that others have wrestled through the wording. These words and phrases lead us to somewhere deeper than where we may not normally go.
  4. Bind us to each other. Having a covenant reinforces the commitments we have made to each other. “We bind ourselves to each other in times of strength so that in moments of weakness we do not become unbound.”
  5. Connect us to a wider group. Knowing that others are covenanting in the same provides a connection point. I went to an International Renovare Conference once and it was wonderful knowing that I was one of probably thousands that had said this covenant. It connected me to others.
  6. Provide a pause button. Our brain needs triggers that say this is the time and the place for this. Speaking out a covenant triggers the brain to say ‘It is time for this’.


Grace filled, realistic covenants can be valuable in the ongoing journey of mental wellness.



Questions to consider and leave a comment.
  1. What covenants have you experienced?
  2. What are the potential problems with making covenants? Do these problems mean we should dispel the idea of making covenant commitments?
  3. Where do you think covenant commitments would be beneficial in your life?


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The Clash of Titans For The Choice of Your Soul

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The Biblical book of Job is my favourite book of the Bible.

Here is this successful man. Wealth, family, health and blameless before God.

Then there is this heavenly chess match between the Creator of the universe and satan a mere angel.
Job is caught between the wrestle.

Will he waver, whom will he choose to side with, is his faith dependant on tangible assets? How does he handle the opinion of others such as his wife and his close friends?

Mysterious questions are asked and answers are elusive.

Friends come and try to help with band aids for broken soul.

In the end Job comes out with probably more questions than he had before but also his tangible wealth is restored and increased.
Some writers write in such a way that you want to slowly read each word and each sentence over and over again. Like a fine wine that you sip slowly to enjoy the flavour.


I have stumbled upon such a writer in Mike Mason.


Here is a long, but worthwhile, quote from his devotional book The Gospel according to Job.


A duel is a highly formal, almost civilized contest between two combatants in which the circumstances are scrupulously controlled so as to make the odds as even as they can possibly be. Neither party is to have an unfair advantage, and to that end the duelists choose identical weapons and observe a strict ritual, a code of conduct.


In a duel the point that is being proved has nothing to do with brute strength, nor even, in the final analysis, with skill or marksmanship. Rather, what is on the line is that peculiar commodity known as honor. The entire rationale for the contest is the defense of personal honor.


In the case of a spiritual quarrel between God and Satan, surely it would be perfectly legitimate for the omnipotent Lord of the universe simply to parade His superior strength and prowess by unleashing his big cannons against the Devil’s pea-shooter.


But the problem, in terms of honor, is whether such a triumph would prove anything. Would it-as insane as this might sound-be fair? No, it would not be fair at all, but lopsided. From the standpoint of honor such a fight would be rigged, and so in the end it would prove nothing.


So what is fair?


In an area as subtle and abstruse as the honor of celestial beings, what are the ground rules? What possible code of ethics might apply? Where is the common territory upon which these two inscrutable adversaries can meet? And what common weapon might they employ that would be truly equitable to both?


The answer, of course, is man. Human beings, soul and body, are the dueling ground where heavenly powers clash.


It is as though two magnificent warriors were to strip themselves entirely of armor, throwing aside not just weapons and shields but raiment itself, and were to step forward stark naked and join in hand-to-hand combat, wrestling in the mud.


For this, finally, is the only way in which the Lord Almighty can begin to prove moral supremacy over the Devil without in any way drawing upon His infinitely greater resources of brute strength.


God’s omnipotence, remember, is never in question in this fight.


Like it or not, even Satan is compelled to bow before the throne of God. But what is being disputed in dubious battle on earth is God’s moral right to omnipotence, His mandate to rule. It is a question of honor that is at stake, and therefore the theater of conflict must be one that is appropriate to the display of purely moral qualities.


Who will win the prize of humanity’s allegiance and praise? Will it be the Lord or the Devil? To whom, in the crunch, will man entrust his soul?


The test is an eminently fair one.


Indeed if the advantage falls either way it is to Satan, in that the duel ends up being fought not in the full light of day, but in confusion and darkness, on the Devil’s own turf.


And so in bewilderment and in exquisite torment man, through the subtle moods and shades and turnings of his own high-mettled spirit, selects the winner.


He is the weapon of choice between giants.


Questions to Consider and Leave a Comment
  • Mike Mason states ‘Human beings, soul and body, are the dueling ground where heavenly powers clash’. What does this statement invite you think, feel and do?
  • What is ‘fair’?
  • There is a battle going on according to Paul in Ephesians 6. Mike Mason believes we individually select the winner. How does meeting with others strengthen the choices we make?

Barry Pearman


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Faith trusts in a God perspective of the fog bound experience.

‘Take a walk in my shoes for a mile or two, or three. Then you will see things differently.’



I listen to people. I read their voice. Syllables and tones mingle with frowns and smiles.


I read between the lines to try and grasp the context of the struggle.


At times the words that are spoken feel like daggers aimed at my heart. Pin pricks mostly go unnoticed until the cushion is over subscribed.


‘Shields up’ my mind responds and a giant jelly like bubble is imagined, invited and installed around the place of vulnerability.


I listen and this is what I hear.


Paranoia and anxiety whisper gusty winds of uncertainty on the tightrope of life. A need to ask these questions. A need to know. A ‘must make up my own conclusions if I am to feel safe and in control.’


A tightrope is covered in fog and all that can be seen is the cold wire beneath. ‘I must know and be in control to be able to take the next step’.


Fog bound tightropes are dangerous places.


Slippery wet,
moisture cold,
height exposed.


A demand to know all the answers to every question reveals a heart that must be in control.


Some mysteries will go unsolved, at least for the moment. Cold cases will remain frozen.


Job asks his questions, God is in the fog.


Faith trusts in a God perspective of the fog bound experience.


The tightwire has now become an airport runway on which one can dance, run, and explore.


Like a child my faith is secure because I am held by God who has all the answers to every question that I gaze upon.

Will mystery be my friend or my foe?


Foggy tightrope questions are laid down and I delicately dance with Father, Son and Spirit.


I leave behind Eliphaz the Temanite, Bildad the Shuhite and Zophar the Naamathite ( Job’s supposed friends) to their accusing fog bound ways and waltz into a new life.


Note to self: Must take dance lessons

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Uncomfortable about Going to Church? 11 Ideas to Help

So many people avoid being part of a Church service because it just makes them feel uncomfortable.

Feelings of anxiety, panic, and being judged are just some of the challenges.

Yet they have a deep desire to be part of a worshipping community. They want to know God and they want to form relationships with others, but barriers and roadblocks exist.

Here are just a few barriers that I have encountered, and perhaps you would like to add a few in the comments section below.

  • Past experiences of judgemental teaching – ‘I fear that I am going to be made to feel guilty’
  • Clothing – ‘They all dress better than me’
  • Concentration – ‘I just can’t concentrate for the length of the service’
  • Sermon – ‘It’s too long and words are used that I just don’t understand’
  • Habits – ‘I smoke (or drink or…) and they are so perfect, they wouldn’t accept me’
  • Anxiety – ‘I can’t sit still, I pace, I will just disturb others and draw attention to myself’
  • Money – ‘They are always asking for money and I don’t have any. It makes me feel guilty that I can’t give when the offering plate comes round’
  • Relationships – ‘I know people in that Church and they know me, perhaps they will gossip about me’
  • God stuff – ‘Does God really love me? I have done some really bad stuff. There is no way any would accept me’
  • They don’t understand my illness – ‘They think my illness is all due to some sin in my life, some demons, some lack of will power or faith. Does God think this?’
  • Size. ‘Too many people too close, I don’t like being so close to others’
  • Hygiene – ‘I cant afford soap and deodorants so I smell, people won’t like that’
I could keep writing many more examples, all of which are valid, to the mind of the person.
10 ideas that can help
  1. Change your belief that ‘Church’ is about a time and a place, to Church being a relationship with a few others focused on Christ.
  2. Find two other people, perhaps like yourself, whom you can trust and form a Christ focused relationship with. Read the Bible together, pray together and listen to each other.
  3. Talk to some one in the Church and explain your difficulties and ask if they can help. If the Church can’t then they probably aren’t the type of Church you want to be involved with anyway.
  4. Have a Church buddy. Some one you can sit with, reassure you, and generally help you out.
  5. Check the church and it’s teaching etc out via the Internet.  Many churches now use social media and have websites and facebook pages etc where you can visit. At River Valley Baptist, where I pastor, we use social media and it just provides another opportunity for people to look into what we are doing, but from a safe distance.
  6. Sit outside in your car and watch people coming and going from the service. What do they wear, do you know anyone, are there people with disabilities, are they generally happy and friendly looking people or are they the walking dead?
  7. Enter the service late and leave early. This is a great idea if you are really afraid of meeting people. Some people do this also to avoid loud worship music, so you may not be alone!
  8. Sit at the back, then you can easily leave or go for a ‘ciggy’ if it all gets too much.
  9. Sit on the end of the row. Easy escape if needed.
  10. Ask for a copy of the sermon notes so you can read them later. The preacher may be surprised at just how popular this would be, or not!
  11. Ask someone what the big words mean. They may not know either, and that might be the preacher we are talking about here!
Perhaps you might have some ideas or thoughts you would like to share. Leave a comment?
Barry Pearman

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“Why Lord?” Question without Answer

Why Lord?


“Why Lord?”
Question without answer,
Nothing gained only ventured.
“I hurt!”
Pain pierces, stabbing the core.
Why? Receives no reply.
“Just wave your magic wand
Grant me my three wishes.”
Tears spill,
Pain elevates rising to the hundredth floor
The basement long forgotten.
The cry rises screamed from silent lips:
“It hurts! Stop it hurting!”
The clawed hand has ripped my midriff open;
The pain of rejection rises
Threatening to split me a thousand ways.
Loneliness rakes its claws;
The soul torn and tattered.

It reminds me
Of the spear tipped with anger plunged into my centre.
Twisted, it ripped love from its home;
Fear took root within the wound;
Love and acceptance were unable to penetrate.
The blade slashed the heart.
Blood poured unchecked into the soul.
Poisoned by self’s denial
The hard knot of resentment plugged the hole.

Weariness seeps into my bones.
I’m tired of fighting:
I surrender to the pain,
Hopelessness a close second.
No packet healing, just add water,
Instant wholeness at the drive through.

Your hand reaches into my soul;
It holds the bleeding, wounded heart,
But the pain doesn’t stop.
Care is given but where is the healing?
No aspirin for quick relief,
This is a damp cloth on the forehead
Sleepless night after sleepless night.
Hardness an easier road:
Pain dulled by the hard knot of resentment;
Anger waiting to surge.
But the anger doesn’t heal:
The volcanic explosion would only spread the flame,
The fire burning many more.
The Man of Sorrows asked for another cup,
But You gave Him only one.
“TRUST! . . . REST!”

“Rest in the pain?”
“Rest in My arms!
Cry the tears.
Sob into My heart.”

The teddy bear is left on the nightstand.
“The pain make it stop!”
With the pain comes the fear,
With the fear the cocktail of emotions
That I bottle for another day.
Threatening to suck the life from me,
A cry rises soundlessly in my throat,
Stride for stride with the inner recessed pain.
The inner reaches disquiet sounds on silent lips.
Exhaustion threatens depression;
Many roads no direction.

“Trust Me!
I will heal.”
“Doesn’t stop the pain!”
“No it doesn’t.
Trust Me anyway!

by Jo Anastasiadis 

Spiritual Growth Ministries – Volume 11, Number 2. Winter 2012.
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How to Change Your Thoughts and Feelings

If it’s been learned, it can always be unlearned. It’s never too late to untangle the knots in your thinking.

Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny. Mahatma Gandhi

Do feelings and thoughts drag you to places where you don’t want to go?
Negative thoughts and feelings tangling themselves into your daily living?

Time to take control.

It will be a battle of the mind. Some days you will win, others days it will be just tough going.

How are you going to do it?

Will just saying positive things change your deeply ingrained negative thought patterns?

Perhaps saying positive things will just promote a false self. Looking good to others while deep within your true self is screaming pain.

What is needed is deep truth that will address that inner cry.

In order to oppose the influence and direction of one’s old feelings, a rational mind first needs a very good reason. Without truth to reassure, change isn’t possible. D. Riddell

Jesus said this

The truth will set you free. John 8:32


Where do we find this truth?

For me this truth comes primarily from two sources.

1. Scripture. 

For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. Hebrews 4:12

Daily I bring my thoughts and feelings to the double-edged scalpel of the Bible. As I submit to its judgement. I find truth that challenges my thinking habits.

Focusing in on a few scriptures and mediating on them, I chew them over and over until they transform my mind.

2. Wisdom Insights.
These come from all sorts of places. Mostly from books, but I also get them delivered daily to my email inbox. Some of the best come from Christian Counsellor David Riddell. You can join his email service at Living Wisdom or follow on Twitter. You may also like to connect with Living Wisdom North Shore.

As you discover the new insights write them down. Possibly on little cards that you can carry during the day and remind your brain of truth.

Repeat them to yourself over and over again. 
You are building new patterns of thinking in your brain.
It will be like building a rope bridge over a canyon. At first it will be hard work, but over time and repeated crossing’s over the canyon the new thinking pattern will get stronger and stronger.

Have a look at this incredible video by Dr. Robert Winston as to now we learn.

What insights have helped you change your thoughts and feelings?

Barry Pearman

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The Walk of Healing


The Walk of Healing 

The road You have taken me on has led
Down into the valley of the shadow
Where I feared much evil, but found none,
Save what I truly thought about myself.

I have climbed the mountain of pain
To the precipice of despair,
Death awaiting, threatening on each side.
The walk narrow
Between the cliff of self-pity,
With the rocks of depression below;
And the scree of the past
Offering a slippery slope backwards to where I began.

I have heard my own self echo off the canyon of truth
Vibrating throughout my reality.
Traversed the desert of self-sacrifice,
My thirst growing, my will dying;
Control being handed to God again and again.
Finding new life at oases of refreshing,
Yet beyond still, desert’s death in all directions.

I have seen myself in the pond of silence,
The water sometimes crystal clear:
Truth obvious to sight;
Sometimes ruffled by the wind of self-deception:
Truth distorted, the liquid indistinct, blurred.


I have walked the beach of companionship,
Jesus by my side and praise in my heart
Oneness a part of every stride.
I have wandered the plain of tears
Wondering where my Companion has gone,
Feeling the pain of the child uncried for many years.

Turned my back on my Companion
And walked the base of the volcano of anger
Smouldering with resentment.
Stumbled onto the circuit of forgiveness
A road that circles and crosses many others
And brings me back to myself.

I have circled the walls of self-preservation,
The brick work impenetrable even to me.
Crossed the drawbridge of self-revelation
Facing the truth of how I view myself and God.
Travelled to the plantation of the past
To discover the slavery to sins, lies and deception
Planted by the deceiver many years ago.

Hesitantly stepped the stones of self-disclosure
Constantly fearing the quicksand of rejection,
I have faced the enemy of confession:
Shame and fear burning deeply in my heart;
Only to realise my enemy was, in fact, a friend.

Meandering into the meadow of love and compassion
I have lain in the grass allowing
Your care to seep into me.
I have trodden the forest of solitude
Where You have pervaded my soul,
Transforming without sight with each footfall.


I have been drawn still further
Into the narrow trail of sorrow and sadness;
Thorns scratching through past emotions,
Exposing rejection and grief.
Plummeted into the abyss of hopelessness,
The darkness complete without and within.

Rowed the ocean of fear
In a dinghy swamped by the surging waves.
Immobile from the coldness of terror,
Holding to the ineffective oars of self-effort,
Waiting for the island of faith or trust to appear.

I have been stranded in No Man’s Land,
The battle between truth and lies
Raging around me.
Stopped at the inn of exhaustion
Too tired to continue;
Sitting amid neutrality
Seeking neither to feel nor to change;
Not wanting to face the road again.
Yet reprieve from travel, gifts energy,
So I have journeyed on at Your encouragement.

I have searched for the fountain of instant healing
That the rest of the road may be walked
Without pain or difficulty.
But healing has not been a destination.
The journey has brought a little more health 
only one stride after another,
one landscape at a time.

Little by little the soul’s wounds receive care.
And always my Companion of the road
Beckons me forward;
New terrain awaiting our travelling feet,
Along the Walk of Healing.

By Jo Anastasiadis

Spiritual Growth Ministries –  Volume 11, Number  2. Winter 2012.

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