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Putting First Things First

‘If it wasn’t for sin I would be out of a job’.

This was a little quip I came up with when I was a pastor. The life of sinfulness and helping people through the mess kept me employed, gave me a living.

It does for many of us, especially those in the helping professions.

The other side of the coin was those who needed serious long term professional help yet could not access it due to its cost. I am thinking of those who needed counselling, psychotherapy etc but the fees were beyond the depth of their unemployed pockets. Continue reading

What to Do When Fatigue Hits Your Heart

Fatigue seems to sap out any reserve you might have to go on.

I remember visiting him in the Intensive Care Unit in our local hospital. After a huge overdose of pills he had woken up to discover he was still alive. His attempt at suicide had not succeeded.

His story was not unfamiliar. He had battled his addiction for years. Day after day. Then it got the better of him, and when his whole world crashed around him he decided to crash out of it.

Beneath what our culture calls psychological disorder is a soul crying for what only community can provide. Larry Crabb

This was years ago, but just the other day he shared with me his excitement at the news of becoming a grandfather.

Wonderful I thought, it was worth all the struggle of rebuild for the joy set before him of holding a new born baby in his arms.

Fatigue hits me too. Continue reading

Discover How To Handle Power Dynamics That Threaten

A friend recently asked ‘Do you know what the ‘Golden Rule’ is’?  He then went on to say that ‘He who has the gold makes the rules’. 

This is an example of  a power dynamic.

Power dynamics refers to the way power works in a setting. Whether that be within a marriage, family, church, workplace or really any place where humans relate.

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Get Your Hands Dirty, You Snob!

Even you need to be part of the rebuild.

There are some people who really get me fired up. They are the ones who in essence say ‘I don’t want to get my hands dirty’.

They essentially don’t want to be part of what you are doing.

As a child I was read the story of the Little Red Hen. The story describes this little hen asking all her barnyard friends to help with the various activities of growing a crop of wheat right through to the baking of the bread. Continue reading

In Recovery YOU Have To Do The Work

The old saying is true. You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink. It’s also true that you can take the water to the horse, put the water in a china cup and sprinkle rose petals over and it still won’t drink.

In my years as a pastor/ chaplain/ mental health worker the ones who made the progress and saw recovery were the ones who did the work. They didn’t sit around smoking all day, regaling the old days. They were the ones who made the effort to change. Continue reading

What to Do With Shame Slingers

I love watching those ‘Mission Impossible’ shows. 

The script takes you to places where you wonder how this ‘Mission Impossible’ will be resolved because if it isn’t then the whole city is going to be destroyed in a nuclear explosion.

I have met people who live in the shadow of a ‘Mission Impossible’. In fact they have given up on life being any different. The obstacles seem too big and difficult and daunting and … impossible. 

People who have lived under this shadow have been there so long that this is all they know. Continue reading

Community = Common Unity = Mental Health Recovery

Every Tuesday night in our church service John would stand up and like a little mouse he would come to the front and ask permission to share a passage he had memorised.

The Living Room church service was set up to be an alternative to the mainstream services held on Sunday. It was geared to be highly inclusive and supportive to people struggling with disabilities, in particular those with Mental Illnesses. Continue reading