Neither is there a tooth fairy, superman, or even dare I say a ‘Jesus’ who will wave a magic wand, sprinkle fairy dust, heal you, and make all your problems disappear for you to have better mental health.
We all like to get involved in stories where there is a hero or heroine with a white horse, Aston Martin or some sort of super power. In reality though the story we are involved in everyday is non fiction. Its real, and made up of earthly problems.
The car won’t start, the dog has vomits on the bed and there is a power bill to pay.
We like to live in a fairy tale truth be told.
You also, secretly, at some deep level want a Santa Claus to take the responsibility for life off your hands. If you do, in some small way, then there is a problem.
The problem is this. You’re not living in reality. You are living in a fairy tale where your dreams won’t come true and you won’t live happily ever after.
I seriously wonder if having Santa’s and Superman’s creates a false reality in our thinking. Instead of taking full and personal responsibility for our lives we sing along to ‘When you wish upon a star’. One foot in the now and one foot in dream land.
Perhaps you have a version of Jesus that is more akin to Santa. That cute little Christmas baby, all snuggled up in linen that went onto being butchered, spat on, and have scars on his body to shock any hardened war vet.
Reality check. Do you worship a ‘Santa Jesus’. Praying that he will give you everything your heart desires.
Mental Health comes through taking
personal responsibility for your life and not just
wishing, and hoping and praying.
Yes, God is there to help but first you have to raise your hand.
Recently I have been listening to ‘Raise your Hand’ by Bruce Springsteen.
If there’s somethin’ you need
All that you’ll never, ever, ever had
I know you’ve never had it
Ohh honey, don’t you just sit there cryin’
Don’t you sit there feelin’ bad
No, no, no
You better get up
Now don’t you understand?
And raise your hand
Hey, hey, hey
I said raise your hand
Bruce wants us to take the initiative, be proactive and grab the opportunities.
Contrast Bruce’s call to action with the Disneyland invite to syrup.
When you wish upon a star
Makes no difference who you are
Anything your heart desires
Will come to you.
If your heart is in your dream
No request is too extreme
When you wish upon a star
As dreamers do.
If you want to have better Mental Health step out of Dream land and into Now land.
If you want better Mental Health you have to take responsibility, raise your hand and make it happen. It won’t just fall from the sky or appear shiny and bright under the Christmas Tree.
Have you got in a ‘Santa Claus’ misbelief thinking pattern.
Here is what I want you to do.
Shoot your ‘Santa’s’ in the feet.
Please, I am not asking any of you to go on a mass rampage of busy shopping malls shooting Santa’s in the feet. They happen to me nice people too, I think.
What I am asking is that you identify those fairy tale beliefs that you have about life and make a wholesale commitment to live in reality.
Disempower the free movement they have in your life. Cripple them!
No one is going to rescue you, and if someone does then really what have you learnt? Do you really want to live in a state of dependency on someone else’s benevolence?
Even with Jesus, are you living a faith where you are just waiting for Jesus to come along and miraculously heal you and solve all your problems.
None of the people Jesus most deeply touched ever went on to have problem free lives. Many of those closest to him were martyred for their convictions.
Jesus wants to help you and needs you to take the steps needed to make this happen.
Picture Bob or Betty praying at the side of Baby Jesus manger.
Bob: Dear Jesus, help me with my finances, I just don’t have enough money.
Jesus: Have you done a budget?
Get the idea?
2. Raise your hand everyday.
Look for those opportunities and grab them. Stop playing the victim game with the Poor Little Old Me (P.L.O.M.) sad sack tune.
Accept responsibility for your own predicament and that you have the power to determine your future.
The best thing you can do to help someone is to constantly bring them back to the reality of accepting responsibility for their own lives and choices.
That they can make choices that will change their future. That they are the ones that will have to make the choices.
There is a biblical character who had everything stacked against him and could have easily played the victim card, but with a change of attitude he changed his life and the lives of millions of others.
Leave a comment below and I will send you a free Bible study about this guy.
Quotes to chew over
- Honesty forces me to conclude that the spiritual path can lead to an escape from a robust commitment to reality. David Benner
- You need to claim the events of your life to make yourself yours. When you truly possess all you have been and done, which may take some time, you are fierce with reality. Flonda Scott Maxwell
- The warfare that the Christian is involved with is the battle between true and mistaken beliefs. It is warring for reality against the delusional world of lies. Which side will you take? David Riddell
- God meets us where we are, not where we pretend to be or wish we were. My job is to pay attention to where I am. When I enter my reality (my red-dot truth), He brings His reality, His truth, into mine. Truth is a two-way street. When I avoid my truth, I nod politely, and I might even smile or say amen when I hear His. But not much happens. God’s truth does not set free a pretending or hiding heart. Larry Crabb
- Any hope that you can know yourself without accepting the things about you that you wish were not true is an illusion. Reality must be embraced before it can be changed. Our knowing of ourselves will remain superficial until we are willing to accept ourselves as God accepts us – fully and unconditionally, just as we are. David Benner
Questions to chomp on?
- Why are fairy tale beliefs so appealing to us?
- How do we keep ourselves and others in ‘When you wish upon a star’ crazy thinking patterns?
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