Are You Getting Ground Out by The Grind?

The grind is real. Life for many can be just one continual experience of being ground out by the daily grind.

I have a little questionnaire. Now and then someone (anonymous) leaves some answers to my three simple questions.

I read them all and always my heart is touched. I send up some prayers and ask God to help me write content that might be of help to this person.

You see I know that whatever is written here by one probably represents 1000’s of others

One such pain point can be summarised up in these words.

 ‘How do I keep going while I am doing intensive therapy.’

Or it might be that the respondent is struggling in an unsupportive, even abusive relationship.

The answers reflect some very exhausted souls, limping from day to day, barely hanging on. I’ve met them, shared stories with them, and at times been in this swamp myself.

There are no ‘7 steps’ to getting out of it. Sorry, if you are switching off now, but there are some stepping stones that might help.

First though some words.


Exhaustion is a thin blanket tattered with bullet holes. Matthew De Abaitua

There is that place when you feel you have given all you’ve got. Nothing left in the tank. Empty and sucked dry.


Long is the way and hard, that out of Hell leads up to light. John Milton

It’s like you’re wrestling with an invisible shape-shifting ghost. Your thoughts and feelings are powered up by memories. Echoes of the past clash with present reality. The slightest trigger sets you off into wild, chaotic dances with anxiety. It’s a form of life but not as you want to know.


Despair is a spiritual condition. Despair is when you fall under the belief and conviction that tomorrow will simply be a repeat of today. Rob Bell The Cellular Exodus

You wonder if you will ever escape the grip of this struggle. Day follows day, and they both seem the same.


Burnout is nature’s way of telling you, you‘ve been going through the motions your soul has departed; you’re a zombie, a member of the walking dead, a sleepwalker. Sam Keen

Like a snuffed out candle with a few wisps of grey rising vapour, you know that you’re done. Nothing left, life is gone. You’re in a ditch, semi-conscious, hoping for a Samaritan to wash your naked vulnerability.

Look, I’m not going to sugar coat it. Life at times is tough.

Please realise that

  • Comparing your story with others doesn’t help.
  • Cliche, band aid bible verses, trotted out will only take you so far.

Perhaps in this series, that I am venturing in on, we can discover some stepping stones in the swamp.

Stones that we can gain footing on and will stop us from being sucked down.

Perhaps what we can do, together, is to share ideas.

Stepping stones that have helped you may just be what is needed for someone else, next door, or across the internet divide.

Here is what I ask you to do.

  1. Please, leave a comment below.
  2. Fill out my questionnaire. It’s totally anonymous.
  3. Share this post with others via the share buttons below.
  4. Most of all believe that there is hope. You can make this journey, and you are not alone.

Quotes to consider

  • Deep summer is when laziness finds respectability Sam Keen
  • When you rest in the Father’s embrace, unexplainable peace fills the center of your soul. Larry Crabb
  • Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved. Helen Keller

Questions to answer

  1. What are some stepping stones for you when you are ground out?
  2. What grinds out your life?

Barry Pearman

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6 Replies to “Are You Getting Ground Out by The Grind?”

  1. Thank you for your on line ministry, I honour you for this.
    What has often brought me to an end of myself has been coping with dealing with a husband who has been diagnosed with an abusive personality disorder which is abusive covertly. Parenting my children to not see this pass down generations and in this I trust GOD.
    I ended up in a relationship like this as it was very deceiving and I had come out of an overtly abusive home.
    What carries me and brings life is knowing GOD, amidst circumstances finding internal rest in HIS presence. I look at how HE has kept me this far, healed me and always been there and I look at all I have to be thankful for. I practise gratitude, even just in the smallest things as these in themselves are miracles.
    At times I have felt without hope and as though I’m finished. In these times, as I am real with myself and FATHER GOD, I have found that HE is never at an end. I find that where my hope is gone, GOD brings hope for me again, even if it’s just for today.

  2. I went to sleep last night praying as I was in distress over circumstances. Before I slept I was encouraged twice by a book I am reading – Finding God in the Waves and another post on the internet. This morning I see this post and I again have been encouraged and am looking forward to reading and absorbing at the weekend. Thank you

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